Counselor's Corner: Freedom From Comparison


Nothing can steal your joy more than comparison.

We compare ourselves to others when we are unsure of who we are and where we belong.

With social media on the rise comparing ourselves to others, highlights distort the reality in our lives. We compare other's best moments with our worst moments. Doing this is not factual, and it leads us to form unrealistic views on how we believe our lives should look.

You really don’t know what someone else’s life is like. The old saying that goes, “You don’t know what goes on behind closed doors,” is a true saying. How many people and families have you idolized and found out later that their spouse had been having an extramarital affair or there was a conflict in the home. People are great at wearing “masks” for others to think that all is great in their lives. I have come to find out those that who put on those “perfect-looking” fronts are the ones that have the deepest and darkest cover-ups.

Stop comparing yourselves with those that appear “perfect” on the outside. The reality is they are very likely covering up something they don’t want you to see.

Comparison steals your joy

I have noticed some Christian women and young girls trying to copy the trends of beauty, wealth, and “having it all.” None of these is wrong per se, but social media deceives women that they can have a flawless look, run multiple businesses, have an exciting social life bursting with friendships, and have a happy, beautiful family. This is deception. The world does not need any more fakes and phonies, but real, authentic people who are not afraid to share not just their highlights but their struggles as well.

If you are not able to share your struggles, then you won’t be relatable. What is needed is genuineness, not fairy tales. When others see your genuineness and authenticity it allows them to be okay that they too struggle.



Freedom from comparison comes when you know that you have been created in God’s image for His purposes. We are not to glorify our beauty, wealth, and status.

Charm is deceptive and beauty does not last but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised. Proverbs 31:30, NLT


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